Tuesday, May 9, 2017

College Gals Guide: Blooming Where you are Planted

Madeline Mullenbach Photography

I have officially wrapped up my sophomore year of college and I can honestly say if you had told me in high school that I would be where I am now, I never would have believed you. Today I noticed myself talking with my family about going back to school to get my masters after I graduate with my BA, my trip to London this summer, starting my blog, my position on my class cabinet and everything in between. I don't say any of this to brag, actually Andrew and I just had a big discussion about how nothing ever phases me... haha! I just prefer to keep a healthy perspective on things.... after all my treasure is not here on earth. I am saying this for the girl getting ready to go to college scared to death that things might not turn out the way she planned. Trust me sister, I am so glad things didn't work out the way I planned. I am saying this for the girl who's been struggling to find her place in this world. I'm saying this for the girl who "has it all" and still continues to feel unfulfilled because I've been there too.

Nothing can fulfill you like leaning into Jesus can.

So life is hard and college is hard. I wish there was a "College Girls Guide for Smarties" but since there's not, you might just have to live with my tips for blooming where you are planted. Whether you're a freshman leaving home for the first time or a senior getting ready to gradute. These tips are for you.

1.) Choose your friends wisely
This can make or break your experience at college. Lucky for me, I met some of my best friends during the first week of school. For most people, choosing friends may look like whoever you are rooming with, your classmates or your teammates if you're an athlete. It is okay to spend time with people who fill you up instead of drain you. Be picky in this aspect of your college career because relationships are worth so much more than any achievement.

2.) Don't be afraid to fail 
This is something that I learned early on and still am not very good at. Fall semester of my sophomore year I felt like I couldn't do anything but fail. I also felt like it was impossible to learn from those experiences because they hurt so much. Turns out, if I hadn't had the experience of not achieving what I wanted too, I never would have known what it was truly like to succeed through adversity. The quicker you can learn to fail, the sooner you can move on to what you were meant to do.

3.) Have integrity 
I say this as a reminder for myself, but also because at the end of the day, there is almost nothing more important. Be the same person around your parents that you are with your friends, boyfriend, professor, mentor. Not only will you not have to worry about what you're saying, doing, etc. You'll have a lot more time to achieve your goals.

4.) Find what drives you 
This is where the "blooming" part comes in. If you make it through college without figuring out what makes you tick, then keep looking for it. You might not find it for many years down the road, but until then never stop chasing what brings you joy.


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